To moms like me, seeing women complain about motherhood can be frustrating. Are their husbands home for dinner? Can they help with bath time? Do they run to the grocery store with you, as a family, or maybe keep the kids while you run an errand?
I want to make a disclaimer–although I am home without my husband MOST of the time, he is working hard so I don’t consider myself “doing it alone.” I know there are single mamas out there and families with deployed spouses. I cannot imagine what they go through on a daily basis and how they manage to hold their family together.
I wish it didn’t bother me. I wish I wasn’t envious of the “normal” families with souses that work Monday through Friday from 9-5. I love my life and I’m proud of the family we have. But having a husband that isn’t home for dinner or bedtimes is actually very difficult. It’s difficult emotionally, but I’ve got it down and think I could win a world record in how fast I can do dinner, bath time, and bedtime by myself! I am lucky to have my family close by to help whenever I need them.
People often ask me, “How do you do it? How do you bathe both kids alone, get them ready for bed and put them both to sleep on top of making dinner, cleaning dinner, taking care of the house, etc?” It’s become the normal for me and I say, “I just do it. It’s what I have to do.” If you were put in this situation, you could do it too!
Motherhood is challenging. It’s tiring and stressful. My mom made a comment the other day about “this generation” of moms that complain. And it’s so true. I see more complaints than anything else, especially on social media. Our parents didn’t have social media to vent about motherhood. I’m sure they just talked to their friends or family. We all have struggles. It’s motherhood. We decided to be parents so this is a part of the package. No one said it was going to be easy.
I’m not saying we don’t have room to complain or vent. We’re human. Maybe we should be a little mindful when complaining about little things. The little things that someone who can’t have kids wishes they could complain about. I have friends who has lost their children. What they would give to hear that baby or toddler cry in their crib at 2am. It’s really hard to think positive and look at all of the greatness around. This is especially hard in the thick of motherhood. But somewhere, someone else has it worse. Putting this into perspective at least makes me feel extra grateful about my life, even through all the hard times.
Be real, but let’s spread some more positivity.